I wouldn't know what to do?!?

We've had some serious tragedy these past few years on this planet. And although I've been affected by them a bit, I'm still pretty removed from it so the affect is minimal.
However, I just found yesterday that two people whom I consider to be some dear friends and fellow brothers in Christ got into a car accident. They were hit from behind and their car flipped over multiple times. Thank God that they're ok but, frankly it's by the grace of God that they are still alive. They both have been released from the hospital with minor injuries and are recovering at home.
Upon reflecting about the events the thought crossed my mind "this could have been a totally different and much more devastating ending." What if they had died? What if they had died? I honestly was scared and just that much more relieved for them because I can't imagine handling the alternative!! I wouldn't know what to do if they had died. I don't know how I could go to work, eat, sleep, laugh, live. I remember how I felt a few months ago when a friend named Caleb died. I felt lost and stuck. I felt the same way about the Virginia Tech event, Columbine, and the death of a 14 year old kid that happened in 2005 around Thanksgiving time.
I guess I've been fortunate enough I haven't had a lot of people that were really close to me die yet. But as scary as it is to think about, I'm all but certain that I will. And honestly.... I HATE.... I absolutely ABHOR that thought!!

Just Spoutin off!!

Ok so I was having a conversation with a group of guys right, and this one guy starts talking about how he met his wife. He mentions that he didn't really want to date at the time he met her (of course she wasn't his wife at the time) and he felt that God "want Him to ask her out on a date". He said he fought for a while with the idea of dating for various reasons and then he said some rather odd. He said, "I decided to be obedient [to God] and ask her out on date."
Um.... I'm not sure what to say about that but I few thoughts are indeed rolling around in my head. How does asking someone out on a date pertain to being "obedient to God". If we don't want to date or get married does God really intervene and make us?!! I read a lot of people's wedding invitations in which the engaged state in a very christian way that they have decided to follow God's will by getting married to each other. Huh?? That has never made sense to me. I also have a hard time with the whole idea of God having that perfect someone for me and it's my job to find her.
I hope I don't sound like I'm giving up on the faith. I'm certainly not. I believe that God is sovereign (that all things are under His control w/out exception) and that He has a plan for my life. I am however giving up on all of this christianese talk and these "sayings" that we have to try make our decisions seem like godly decisons when most of the time they probably have little do with God. I could list all of the things we Christians say, things I've said myself, that now make me want to vomit but I will spare us all because I'm sure that you know what they are. And besides, I'm sure I've offended someone already and would like to avoid it any further.