Youth Ministry

We are going into a new season at my church regarding our youth ministry. Things are starting to change. I think change in this case is needed. I've felt for a long time that the way we've done youth ministry ceases to be as affective anymore. We just had are leaders appreciation dinner and I pondered often throughout the night how to reach a jr. high or high school student where they are at. What does it mean to swim in the jr. high or high school ocean. I think that is a big key to communicating with them. I have a few teachings that I will be doing this summer and I have to admit, I'm not entirely sure how to do that. I'm not sure how to reach them where they are. Sure it's easy to talk at students and tell them they have to be doing this or that. It's easy to try to guilt kids into witnessing or reading the Bible or doing christian things. It's a lot more difficult to help them integrate it into their lives and take the time to train them.
I want a youth ministry that is God-honoring. Who doesn't? I want it to be a place where God wants to come and dwell. I want it to be a place where leaders intercede on behalf of the youth and cry out to God for His healing to be over their lives. I want a youth ministry where kids can come and loved away from the ugliness of this world and learn by themselves (with a little coaching if need be) by the leaders. I don't want to just teach kids. I want to learn kids. Some people don't believe in short cuts I guess. Or atleast don't take any heed to them.